Wednesday, January 24, 2018

LOVING A WOMAN

LOVING A WOMAN


When you love a woman, what do you really love in her? It will be different with different people and it will be different at different times. If love really grows, this is the way: first you fall in love with the woman because her body is beautiful. That is the first available beauty – her face, her eyes, her proportion, her elegance, her dancing, pulsating energy. Her body is beautiful. That is the first approach. You fall in love.

Then after a few days you start going deeper into the woman. You start loving her heart. Now a far more beautiful revelation is coming to you. The body becomes secondary; the heart becomes primary. A new vision has arisen, a new peak.

 If you go on loving the woman, sooner or later you will find there are peaks beyond peaks, depths beyond depths. Then you start loving the soul of the woman. Then it is not only her heart – now that has become secondary. Now it is the very person, the very presence, the very radiance, the aliveness, that unknown phenomenon of her being – that she is. The body is very far away, the heart has also gone away – now the being is.

And then one day this particular woman's being becomes far away. Now you start loving womanhood in her, the femininity, the feminineness, that receptivity. Now she is not a particular woman at all, she simply reflects womanhood, a particular form of womanhood. Now it is no longer individual, it is becoming more and more universal. And one day that womanhood has also disappeared – you love the humanity in her. Now she is not just a representative of woman, she is also a representative of man as much. The sky is becoming bigger and bigger. Then one day it is not humanity, but existence. That she exists, that's all that you want – that she exists. You are coming very close to God.

Then the last point comes – all formulations and all forms disappear and there is God. You have found God through your woman, through your man. Each love is an echo of God's love.

❤Osho❤

Osho: ‘The one who questioned answers.’

Abridged from:
Get Out of Your Own Way
(Chapter # 20)

If you feel like crying and you feel good afterwards, it is very therapeutic. In fact the best way is to cry for no reason at all. If there is some reason, it never flowers perfectly.

The reason is there and it goes on nagging. It is never pure crying. But when there is no reason, you simply feel like it... you look at the moon and it is so beautiful that you feel like crying. Perfectly good.

You are just sitting doing nothing, and suddenly tears start filling the eyes... beautiful!

 We continuously condemn everything. If tears are there we condemn. What is wrong in tears? It is good, an unburdening.

If you enjoy crying, soon you will see that laughter starts coming in the same way.

That also is very difficult. If suddenly you laugh for no reason at all, people will think you are mad. If you are crying for no reason at all, nobody will think you are mad. They will think that there must be some reason inside.

But for laughter some outside reason is needed... nobody laughs for inner reasons. Laughter needs somebody else to be there to make a situation; a reference is needed.

If you cannot allow crying without any reason, you will never be able to allow laughter without any reason.

When laughter comes out of nowhere, out of the blue... simply flowers in you uncaused, it is tremendously beautiful. It is holy, sacred.

And it can happen that you shift: for two minutes you are crying and for two minutes you are laughing, and again for two minutes you are crying. You will be afraid of what is happening and will wonder if you are going mad.

The wind can blow strong and then stop, and there is silence; then again it blows. Simply watch these things and become a witness... don't be disturbed and distracted or worry about what others will think.

I was reading a story the other day.

A man walked into a bar, ordered a drink, and proceeded to laugh out loud for about two minutes. When all eyes were upon him, he abruptly stopped laughing and started crying and sobbing.

After about two minutes of this, a smile came into his face and he again broke into uncontrollable laughter. This was followed with another bout of crying. And then more laughter.

After about twenty minutes of alternate laughing and crying, he looked up at all the enquiring faces and said, 'Please forgive me, but my mother-in-law has just driven over a cliff in my new car!'

OSHO

Wednesday, January 10, 2018

 OSHO QUESTION AND ANSWERS



QUESTION: Osho, what are you doing here exactly ?
OSHO: Selling water by the river.
Master Sogaku Harada died at the age of ninety-one. At his funeral service hung a piece of calligraphy written by himself :
FOR FORTY YEARS I HAVE BEEN SELLING WATER BY THE BANK OF A RIVER. HO, HO! MY LABOURS HAVE BEEN WHOLLY WITHOUT MERIT.

He says 'Selling water by the river' - where there is no need really.
The river is flowing - you can simply jump into the river and drink your fill. But people are so foolish, they need somebody to sell water even by the river.

Secondly he says:
''Ho, ho! My labours have been wholly without merit.''
That is a great statement. First we go on selling water by the side of the river. If you are a little intelligent you can jump yourself. And finally we know all effort is meaningless, in vain. Because even if you become enlightened, nothing is gained. You were always enlightened. Nobody needs to be enlightened, because everybody is already enlightened. It is such a ridiculous thing for people to keep trying to enlighten you. It is so ridiculous for me to go on enlightening you every day.

And you are stubborn... and you will not become enlightened.
And I go on selling the water by the river....
And you PAY for the water!
And you won't look at the river, and the river is flowing by the side.
It has always been there - before the thirst is created, the river is there. Before the desire, the fulfilment.

So you ask, ''What are you doing here exactly?''
-- SELLING WATER BY THE RIVER. HO, HO !!


BELOVED OSHO,
WHY DOES ONE WANT TO MARRY?

I don’t know exactly.
Because I never wanted to, so I am utterly inexperienced.

You should not ask me such difficult questions.

But I guess – these are just guesses.
I guess because people like to live in institutions, in prisons.

People don’t want to live an open life, they want to live a closed life.

That’s why they want to get married.
I guess people don’t love, that’s why they want to get married.

The love is not enough, so the law is needed to help.

If love is enough there is no point in getting married. If you trust your love,that’s enough; no other thing is needed to keep you together.

Marriage is finding ways to keep you together. Because you cannot trust that your love is enough to keep you together.

People who don't love, they want to get married.

Although people are very cunning – they say, ’We want to get married because we love.’ But why should one want to get married if one loves?

Love is more than enough.

How can marriage help? It can destroy, it cannot enhance.

The very idea of marriage is the beginning of divorce. The moment you think to get married you should beware – you have already started planning for divorce.

The fear is coming, the fear of divorce is coming – and before it takes possession of you, you want to get married.

So there will be the law and the police and the court and the society to prevent you escaping from this woman or to prevent this woman escaping from you.

Love is enough, more than enough.

And if love cannot keep you together then nothing can keep you together. And nothing should keep you together.

People like to get married because they cannot bear happiness.

They want some misery.

Whenever you see a couple, a man and woman, thoroughly unhappy you can trust they are married – but they have to be thoroughly un happy.

It is very difficult to see a married couple happy, whatsoever their pretensions.

They may show happiness but that is not the truth. You should see them when they are not pretending, when they are not wearing their public face.

They are always quarrelling, always fighting, always at each other’s necks.

People can’t bear happiness.
Love is such a joy, it is unbearable.
It is so unbearable you want to crush it. And marriage is the sure way to crush it.

All marriages are destructive to love. The very idea is destructive.

Love should be your only trust.

OshO 💕
CHAPTER 3. NOW IS THE ONLY TIME FOR THE HEART
This Very Body the Buddha

Wednesday, January 3, 2018

OSHO, OSHO QUESTION AND ANSWERS


Abridged from:
Get Out of Your Own Way
(Chapter # 17)

It is not a question of compromise! It is a question of understanding.

Compromise is not the right word... it is a question of understanding.

For example you have come to me. If you are here for one hour, you are losing many more things. In that one hour you could have done many other things.

You could have gone to the movie; you have missed the movie. You could have gone to see friends. You could have gone to a coffee-house; you have missed that. You could have danced; you have missed that. You could have read; you have missed that.

You have missed a thousand and one things to come to me. You may not be aware, but you have missed -- because there were millions of alternatives.

This is how life is. You cannot do all the things together. It is not a question of compromise... it is a question of alertness.

If you become alert, things become very easy and one finds a way. One always finds a way.

That's what one should try to do --  to live life as much as possible... to gain as much out of life as possible. Out of everything, going on choosing the best -- the best that is humanly possible so you become enriched.

But the attitude of just being against society is not going to help. Society does not bother about it, and you will be crippled by it.

Forget about rules, forget about society. Just think about yourself, your possibilities, alternatives -- what can be chosen and what will be the best choice.

If you feel that you have made a mistake, change it. Learn by trial and error.

That's how it has to be. Don't get obsessed by small things; they are not that important.

Life is a big thing. It is not equivalent to going naked in the sun or the river. Life and freedom of life does not mean going naked in the sun or the river. This is all nonsense.

Life is big, very complicated thing. Don’t reduce it to nonsense.

OSHO


[11:27, 10/17/2017] Manish Sitar Popular Height: Osho: ‘The one who questioned answers.’

Abridged from:
Get Out of Your Own Way
(Chapter # 17)

The frustrations are there because there was some expectation in you that something was going to happen. That created the whole trouble.

If you have some expectation you will be frustrated and nothing will come out of it. But one has to learn by doing it; there is no other way.

So forget about it. Whatsoever it could do it has done.

But always remember while doing the meditations , never go with an expectation.

Just go to see what happens, and allow it to happen.

Don't go on looking out of the corner of the eye and don't go on waiting for something to happen, because that will become a constant barrier and it won't allow you to be there totally. It won't allow you to be herenow.

That expectation will constantly hover around your head and you will say, 'It has still not happened. Up to now it has not happened and one day is gone. Another day has gone -- what are you doing? Nothing has happened!'

That becomes an auto-hypnosis. Nothing has happened and the time is running out! You miss.

Simply do it. If the mind says that nothing is happening, tell the mind that nothing is going to happen! For what are you looking? Nothing is the goal!

Once you cannot be frustrated by the process, you will be tremendously benefited by it.

That's the rule: if you cannot be frustrated by it, you will be benefited.

The frustration simply shows that you've a deep desire, a deep undercurrent of desire, that is frustrating you -- not the meditation.

But it is nothing to worry about. It happens to almost everybody. One starts rationalising, in many ways, about what is the point and why are you wasting your time. Many times the idea will come to leave; that's natural.

But one learns, don't carry any expectations and much is possible.

OSHO


Abridged from:
Get Out of Your Own Way
(Chapter # 18)

It is your life, you have to decide about it.

This is one of the most basic things to understand -- that you are responsible for yourself, nobody else.

You have to take the responsibility. If you want to grow, open. If you don't want to grow then remain closed -- but it is your responsibility.

When I use the word responsibility, I don't use it in the ordinary sense, in the sense of duty -- no. It is exactly the opposite of duty.

Duty is always something that you don't want to do and you do it.

The duty to your father, the duty to your mother, the duty to the country, the duty to this and that is that which you don't want to do, but you do it because it has been forced on you, taught to you, and if you don't do it you will feel guilty. If you do it you will not feel happy but at least you will not feel guilty. You will gain nothing out of it.

When I say responsible, I mean respond to the situation in which you find yourself.

If you don't respond, that is your decision. Remember always that if you don't want to grow, there is no way to help you.

It is nobody else's business.

If you see that it is foolish to hide, foolish to hold on, then drop that nonsense. And don't ask how to drop it.

There is no how to it. You simply see the point -- that it is useless -- and you drop it. By dropping it one learns how to drop it.

Whatsoever you are trying to hide is not worth it. It is not a treasure to hide! It is your disease.

And why be afraid of these people?

Just watch people... they are just like you; they also have the same problems. Nothing human is alien.

Whatsoever problem you have, they are just the same; maybe degrees differ.

When people are being angry and their hate is coming up, their sexuality is coming up, their greed is coming up -- they are crying and weeping and laughing and things are opening, pent-up energies are finding release -- watch!

Get caught up in the flow! Ride on the wave! Take a jump!

It will happen. There is no technique in it, just courage!

OSHO